How will you know if a guy is for keeps?
Well, a crush is very much different to a boyfriend material. A crush can be anyone- someone who is stunningly good-looking, someone who is smart, nice and friendly or someone who is oozing with so much talent. Crushes can be found anywhere but a person whom you can consider as a boyfriend material is rare. They say crush lasts for at least 4 months then after that period of time and you’re still crushing on someone, that’s stalking already. Haha. Lol. JK. What I’m trying to say is that crush is something temporary while a boyfriend is and should be someone you consider as a future spouse. I mean get real, you don’t enter a relationship just for experience right? A person becomes committed with someone because he/she considers that person as a potential partner for a lifetime. Or at least that’s what I believe in (and what the bible says too). That’s why you should be really careful in knowing if a guy is a boyfriend material or not.
These are my opinion. I repeat, my OPINIONS only.
Number 1. He should be someone who loves God (Jehovah, see Psalm 83:18) more than you and he should bring you closer to God not away from Him.
A person who loves God more than anything else (including her girlfriend) is someone who will never do things that can hurt the two of you. He will respect you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. He is someone who hopes for the best in your relationship and someone who knows what love really is.
Number 2. He is someone who brings out the best in you. You’ll never have to pretend to be someone you’re not in front of him, his family and his friends. He loves you just the way you are. There may be some things that you do that irritate him but after telling you off, he just let it slide. He inspires you to be the best in everything you do but doesn’t hover or control you. In your times of failure, he will stay by your side and still accept you together with a heartwarming hug.
Number 3. He is not ashamed to be seen with you in public. He’s the person who doesn’t mind if you show up looking like a clown from a circus. He doesn’t care if you’re clothes are not signatured, if you’re shoes are worn-out already and couldn’t care less if you’re wearing make-up or not. No matter what you look like, he’s the man next to your father that’s proud of the person that you are.
Number 4. He is someone faithful and true to you. He doesn’t look at any other girl even if Anne Curtis or Solenn Heusaff is around. You are the apple of his eye. You are the only girl worth watching for him. He will love the way you smile, the way you laugh even if you let out some weird noises when you do. He thinks it is cute when you get mad because he teases you. Most of all, he looks at you like it’s only just the first time that you met. He never gets tired of you and never will be. He tells you everything, even the things that you might never want to hear. He honestly criticize you, but trying hard to tell it in a way that you will not get offended because that’s the last thing he wanted to happen.
Number 5. He loves your family. Even though, you don’t have the perfect family he still loves them. He loves them just like the way he loves you because it’s his way of being grateful to them. He is thankful because if it’s not for your family who raised you and took care of you, he wouldn’t have met the wonderful person that you are. Sometimes, you may feel that he’s closer to your family than you but that’s his way of letting you know that he is willing to be a part of your family.
That’s all I have for now. I hope you’re able to learn something from me. Always remember what love is. Stay in love everyday! :)♥
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,endures all things. Love never fails. – 1 Cor. 13:4-8, New World Translation